ASKING FOR HELP. Oh, was that a shudder I saw go down your spine? What is it about asking for help that sets women on edge? No, I’m not talking about calling a babysitter. I’m talking about asking for real help, reaching out and saying “I’m not sure what to do,” or “I’m not good at this at all,” or “This makes me shake.” Maybe you are an exception to this, but I only recently came to extol the virtues of the skill of asking for help. And now I think I’ll plant a “Help Wanted” sign on my lawn. And why not?
I want help. I need help. But more to the point, I appreciate the help that I get, whether it be with life advice, with my finances, or just projects around the house. This was hard won for me. And is a great place to write from, when writing memoir. But how to do it efficiently? Some time ago I wrote a post entitled 15 Rules for Us Girls to Live By, and it’s a post that has gone worldwide many times. Have a look and see the power of lists, one of the great devices when writing what you know.
And one you can always update. So, here’s rule number 16: It’s a smart woman who knows how and when to ask for help, and who then takes that help and does what she can with it.
What’s your list of rules to live by?
